Author Q&A with Jim Parisi: Insights on Writing Flash and Using Humor in Storytelling
by Christine Nessler
July 23, 2025
Jim Parisi lives in Washington, D.C., with his long-suffering wife, Beth, and Dolce, a spicy mix of boxer, pit bull, and Australian cattle dog. (Their two kids, Aidan and Nora, have flown the coop.) After a long career as an editor of research products for the academic market, he is focusing on fiction writing and freelance editing while he still has that new-unemployed-guy smell. Much of his free time is spent coaching Little League softball. His writing has been published in FlashFlood Journal and ihavethatonvinyl.com.
Parisi’s piece was the winner of the 2025 Honeybee Prize in flash Fiction. “While Making Out the Lineup for Tomorrow’s 12U Softball Championship Game” is available in Issue #20 along with the judge’s endorsement and audio of Jim reading a portion of his work.
How would you describe yourself—not just as a writer, but as a storyteller in everyday life?
My wife heard me read this question aloud and said that I’m a “quick- witted wiseass.” I started to protest but had to concede that she nailed it. I try to infuse every text, every email, every conversation, ever social media post, every story with humor. That was true even before I started writing fiction with a sense of purpose–and urgency, given my relatively late start—the past couple of years. But I’ve found that as I’ve become more confident as a fiction writer, I have also become more adept at telling stories in everyday life, both orally and in writing. I’m still a “quick-witted wiseass,” but I have become better at spinning a tale that goes beyond one-liners.
While Making Out the Lineup for Tomorrow’s 12U Softball Championship Game feels deeply personal, almost like flash creative nonfiction. How did your own coaching experience shape this piece?
This story came very easily to me, but it is not autobiographical or even based on situations or characters from my time as a softball coach. (In fact, the only player in the story who was based on a player I knew in real life ended up on the cutting-room floor after the first draft.) But I have been immersed in that world for years, and from the moment I came up with the premise for the story, I had a clear idea of how I would describe the lives of each of the players. I had to figure out the interpersonal relationships of the adults as I went along, but that also came pretty quickly, even though the suburban town I imagined as the setting is foreign to my experience as a coach.
This story moves so naturally from humor to something much more heartfelt. How do you approach building emotional tension and conflict in such a short space?
In my first draft I set out to give a fuller picture of the personalities and circumstances of the players along with the interweaving of relationships between the adults. The beauty of the structure of this story is that I could describe each girl in one discrete paragraph and could also explain, when the story called for it, how that girl or her family played a role in the plight of the coach. So building tension and conflict was fairly easy. I did it one block of text at a time, whittling my expansive first draft (all 3,400 words of it) to home in on a few telling details and plot developments. The humor comes naturally to me, but I’m constantly on the lookout for signs that the humor is coming off as too glib or facile and dampening the emotional resonance of the story. It’s a work in progress, an ongoing struggle in all my writing. (My wife just interjected, “in all your life.”)
The father in the story feels layered—like someone who may not have planned to coach, but stepped up for the sake of connection. Was that part of the character from the start, or something that emerged as you wrote?
I envisioned the father as someone who got started in coaching because his daughter’s team needed a coach and he agreed to fill that role. (That’s how a lot of coaches get their start, even lifers like me who end up sticking around long after their kids have moved on.) The connection with his daughter would have been part of his reason for wanting to coach, but when he started coaching, his personal life had not yet taken a turn for the worse. So he would have been doing it because he wanted to be a good dad who also liked teaching the other kids how to play. But as I kept heaping misery upon misery on the poor guy, I came upon the realization that softball was one of the cherished tethers to his earlier life with his daughter, which added to his sense of melancholy approaching this last game of the season.
Do you often experiment with different forms or genres in your writing? What draws you to flash fiction in particular?
I always thought that I was too much of an overwriter to be any good at flash fiction. It sometimes takes me 200 words just to clear my throat. And my writing in no way resembles the prose-poemy lyricism of the best flash stories. But I’ve found that I love being able to come up with an idea, then write a first draft that might indulge my proclivity for excess, then pare that down to get to the heart of the story and the characters. When it works well, I can come up with a finished story in a few days (then pick at it endlessly, something I had to stop myself from doing with this story even after it won the prize). Most of my flashes tend to have traditional story structure or verge on being vignettes. This story’s annotated lineup is an exception. I have recently completed the first draft of a novel that I began in 2023. I’m currently taking a brief break from that to gear up for writing the second draft. During this downtime, I’ve been writing stories that I hope will, if my nascent plan bears fruit, find their way into a novella-in-flash that I will return to whenever the novel stalls.
Flash fiction often relies on what’s left unsaid as much as what’s on the page. How do you decide what to include and what to leave out?
I am constantly fighting my natural urge to explain too much. I think I’ve gotten better about it, but I still need to be vigilant about leaving those spaces for the reader to fill in. But I am an editor by inclination as well as training; so as I’ve gained confidence in writing flash fiction, I have been able to direct my editing efforts to focus not only on correcting what’s on the page but also on figuring out what doesn’t need to be on the page. That too is a work in progress.
There’s such warmth and subtlety in the humor here. How has humor influenced your writing voice over time—and how do you decide when to use it?
My biggest struggle lies in figuring out when not to use humor. My default mode is writing humor. Buried somewhere in my attic is a report card from the eighth grade on which my English teacher wrote. “Jimmy’s sense of humor comes out in his writing.” REDACTED years later, I am still at heart that thirteen-year-old kid, especially when writing dialogue. I have found that the subject matter and natural rhythms of the story dictate when to use, and when not to use, humor. But even in the more serious parts of this story, my intention was for the coach to use humorous asides and self-deprecation to leaven what could have been a relentless litany of misery and indignities. I can’t imagine writing characters without the use of humor, either overtly or subtly.
Which writers or storytellers have had the biggest influence on you, and what is it about their work that sticks with you?
This is the question I’ve been dreading. Ask me to name my favorite or most influential anything, and I’ll draw a massive blank. But I’ll try my best.
I could go on about many authors, but I’ll pick the first three who popped into my head as having influenced how I think about writing over the years. I was a huge John Irving fan in my early twenties, back when he wrote novels that were Dickensian in scale but filled with humor. I wish I could write as well, and as perceptively, as Kurt Vonnegut, but I certainly aspire to the liveliness of his prose and his ability to use humor to point out society’s absurdities and outrages. And Roddy Doyle’s dialogue jumps off the page for me, especially in his earlier books. He has definitely influenced my approach to writing dialogue.
But honestly, the publication that had the biggest influence on me from an early age was MAD Magazine. I read that religiously as a kid. MAD—along with genetics (from my father, although my mother can hold her own in that department) and a healthy dose of New Jersey attitude—definitely played a significant role in developing the comic sensibility that runs through everything I write.
What do you think of when you hear, “the good life?”
What comes to mind when I think about the good life is vacations with my family: sitting on the nearly deserted beach late in the afternoon, the sun setting behind us, the sound of the waves crashing, the sense of peacefulness. I think I’ll need to make a concerted effort to conjure that image to counteract the sense of dread that pervades my thoughts whenever I think about the state of the world.
Thank you, Jim, for being a part of our growing literary community and for spending extra time with us on the Q&A as well as the audio reading. Congrats again on the prize… we wish you the best!