Redefining Soulmates Through Poetry: An Interview with Kelsey L. Smoot
by Christine Nessler
May 21, 2026

Kelsey L. Smoot (they/he/Kelz) is a gender theorist, an elective Southerner, a writer, and a poet. Their autoethnographic style has become the lens through which they understand and reflect on their experience navigating the US sociopolitical landscape. They are the winner of the 2021 Sad Girls Club Spring Literary Contest and the Grand Prize Winner of the 2024 Button Poetry Video Contest. Kelz is a Tin House Workshop alum, a Pushcart Prize nominee, a Best of the Net nominee, and a Best New Poets nominee.
Their poem “For Kenny” won the 2023 Honeybee Poetry Prize, and their latest collection of poems, SOULMATE AS A VERB, is available now from MIT Press. Their previous chapbooks include: we was bois together and Muse.
You’ve described yourself as a self-trained poet. How has forging your own path shaped your voice and approach to craft?
I think being self-trained definitely means being intentional about studying craft elements in poetics by reading the work of other poets, by going out of my way to seek poetry resources. Those who know me well know that I definitely enjoy a good form. I think it trains a different muscle than free-verse poetry does, so to that end, I often tell people that I think that poetry is both an art and a discipline. The art component of it is so fun to engage and explore and share with the world, but I do think the ‘discipline’ component–which to me sometimes includes writing poems that are more functional practices and experiments than they are creative expressions–is definitely important for my overall development as a poet.
What poets or writers have most influenced your work, and in what ways?
So there are kind of the writers that are in my personal Mount Rushmore—so Audre Lorde, Toni Morrison, Octavia Butler, and James Baldwin—but also June Jordan, Lucille Clifton, and contemporary poets like Cameron Awkward-Rich and K.B. Brookins. Each of these writers (and many, many more that I don’t feel like I have enough space across a lifetime of empty pages to write about and express my gratitude for), has created something that I fully see myself in; they’ve reflected their experiences back to me, and my experiences back to me. And I have ultimately realized that I think that is also a huge goal in my writing. I think a lot of writers want to write something that’s completely original and to feel like they are pioneering something, whereas I am personally so thrilled and honored to be writing within the lineage of writers and thinkers that have come before me. Each of these writers has challenged me to think critically about my identities and how they show up in my work. They each are very reflective and nostalgic, but also highly forward-thinking and futuristic, and have a penchant for sharing hard truths and not shying away from literary honesty and authenticity—something I hope to do in my work as well.
I read about the story of your brother inspiring the title of SOULMATE AS A VERB in an Electric Lit feature, and I was struck by your idea that soulmates are created through “trust and mutuality.” The title reframes love as something we do rather than something we find. How did that conversation shape the larger vision of this collection, and what does that shift mean to you personally and poetically?
Yeah, so with regard to SOULMATE AS A VERB, with the title being something that was born of a conversation with my brother, it definitely informed the vision of this project as a body of work that would intentionally deviate from or complicate popular notions of “soulmates.” I certainly wanted the concept of soulmate to function in this collection as a tool, a lens through which we can see ourselves, our loved ones, our communities, and also our political orientations more clearly, and determine how to embody a practice of love that is less about predestination and romantic alignment and much more about commitment, agency, and devotion to others. Personally and politically, that has meant building out my concepts of love that don’t revolve solely around a romantic partner. I’m still always good for a love poem, but I think some of my best love poems within the collection are those written to and for non-romantic loves across the expanse of my life.
What do love and soulmates look like to you right now? Must soulmates be romantic, or can they take many forms?
Right now, love and soulmates to me look like choices. I absolutely don’t think that soulmates must be romantic. I’d argue that most people are more likely to connect with non-romantic soulmates in their lifetimes , just because I do think romantic love—especially operating in systems like patriarchy, capitalism, and white supremacy—is highly precarious and volatile. But I think that most people would say that they could not survive their daily lives without their communities, their families, and their friends, and I do think there’s always a radical potential to build soulmate connections within those groups and to take it a step further, to organize movements around viewing our communities as soulmates.
The description of your collection outlines themes of kinship, masculinity, grief, and desire. Which of these themes surprised you most while writing?
I would say none of these themes particularly surprised me, because they are themes that I am constantly thinking about, writing about, and discussing within my daily life. I think my creative work really is so truly an extension of my inner world as well as my academic writing and research, so to that end I think it just felt really beautiful and fitting to have a new space in which to explore these themes that could be messier, more honest, creative, and intimate.
Your collection blends various poetic forms. What draws you to experimenting with form? Is there one form you gravitate towards? What is it about that form that speaks to you?
Yeah, I think experimenting in form just makes poets so much more intentional. There is this poem called “The Quiet World” by Jeffrey McDaniel that I love, and in the poem people are limited to 167 words per day. For a chatty dude like myself, that’s a terrifying thought, but also in the poem it is clear that this restraint forces individuals to be so incredibly thoughtful about each word that they utter. And in the same capacity, I think that that’s what forms can do for a poet. I think they force you to be disciplined and make hard choices. I really like the Kwansaba, of which there are several in SOULMATE AS A VERB. It’s a short form with very specific limitations on line count, line length, and word length. To that end, I think you can cover so much ground in a Kwansaba because it isn’t supposed to be this sprawling epic form of writing. It’s this, for me, short, tight little glimpse into a topic or a moment or feeling. I have always loved writing poems that have left enough space for me and the reader to meet each other on the page and co-create some additional meaning that resonates specifically with them.
How does this collection differ from the poems you wrote earlier in your career or in your chapbooks we was bois together and Muse?
I think poems that I wrote earlier in my career were really written, by and large, to process my feelings, so some of them read a little bit more like diary entries. Some of them, I would also say, are lowkey embarrassing in that they are really me just fumbling around and discovering what my poetic voice was going to be. And then moving into we was bois together and Muse, I think those are both projects born of trying to create companion writings for my academic work, which I felt like was so much less accessible and available than these poems could or would be. But I think that SOULMATE AS A VERB really is an offering of reflections–refractions, theory, political advocacy, love poems, and just attempts to offer the world some documentation of what it’s like to exist in the body that I do, in the time that I do, still seeking love and connection. I think these poems are more outward facing.
How does writing poetry help you make sense of the world around you? How does it also function as a form of advocacy or witness?
I do think that poetry does still absolutely help me make sense of the world around me, in that it is the way in which I bear intimate witness to my life. I think that there are things that we can read in poems that might challenge us or awaken us in a capacity that feels more approachable or less politically intimidating. A lot of people have said that they’ve shared my poems with a loved one in order to shed some light on a particular aspect of an experience or social justice that they otherwise might struggle to converse about with that person. I definitely think that poetry has become my best method for activism at this point in my life.
These can feel like hateful and frightening times. Where do you find hope or resilience during difficult seasons?
Honestly, I find hope and resilience in youth culture. It feels wild to recognize how quickly I went from feeling so young and inexperienced to starting to feel like a bit of an elder, especially when it comes to younger queer folks, but I think that the younger people in my life—from Gen Z adults that I work with and/or little kids in my life whose adulthood will likely be shaped by a very different set of material conditions than mine currently are—are all so curious and loving and brave, I think, in comparison to how I felt at their ages. These are really scary times, and yet I’ve never lost faith in the radical potential for humanity to outlive these oppressive systems and for people to keep dreaming of a different world. I hope to do that in my work, but also I hope to embody that optimism in my life.
Writing often asks us to be both protected and exposed. How are you feeling after the debut of your first full-length collection?
I feel really proud. I look at how far I have come as an artist and just as a thinker, and I realize that I will likely look back on these poems with massively different perspectives and experiences down the road and still feel so glad that these are the poems that I got to kind of introduce myself with into the literary world. The people around me know that I am committed to a consistent sort of vocalization of my truth, and I also do still strive to protect the privacy of people that I talk about in my work, but I am always working toward becoming more courageous, more honest, and more free. So I think that’s my biggest priority at this time when the book is so newly in the world.
How do you hope readers respond to SOULMATE AS A VERB? What conversations do you hope the book inspires?
I hope that readers respond to SOULMATE AS A VERB by engaging their loved ones in more conversations. I hope they feel emboldened to take up more space in their bodies and and in their communities, and I hope that they feel galvanized to adopt a framework of love that decenters romantic connection, or at the very least, broadens the concept to include all different types of loves and all different types of soulmates.
What do you hope younger queer and trans readers might feel when they encounter this book?
I hope that younger queer and trans readers might feel seen when they encounter this book. I told a friend the other day I certainly think I’ve written many of the things that I really felt like I needed at 16 but didn’t have access to or couldn’t find because they didn’t yet exist. I hope that younger queer and trans readers also feel emboldened to write their own truths and make their own art, which could look like poetry but could also look like any other authentic expression of self.
After this debut, what kinds of stories or projects are calling to you next?
After this debut, I am working on expanding my arts writing, as well as longer-form essays, but I am also definitely in the works of developing a second full-length manuscript tentatively titled Hope Is the Next Best Thing to Certainty. I want my next iteration of poems to be forward-thinking, more experimental, but certainly still continuing some of the themes of this work around love, kinship, truth, and liberation.
Congratulations, Kelz, on the creation of such a stunning debut full-length collection, and THANK YOU! for being a part of our growing community. We appreciate you and the time you spent with Christine on this interview. We hope you keep the celebration going for this book and wish you the best with future writing endeavors!










